What is “Conscious Uncoupling”?
What is “conscious uncoupling” and what is its relationship to divorce?
This week, in a highly publicized separation, Gwyneth Paltrow announced her split from her husband on her website, calling it a “conscious uncoupling.” This is a fairly new term that has people talking.
“Conscious uncoupling” is rooted, perhaps unsurprisingly, in New Age psychology. Marriage and family therapist Katherine Woodward Thomas is credited with popularizing it through her 5-week Conscious Uncoupling program, which aims to help “release the trauma of a breakup, reclaim your power and reinvent your life.”
Ms. Thomas has authored several books including Calling in “The One,” where she shares her own personal experience to show women that in order to find the relationship that will last a lifetime, you have to be truly open and ready to create a loving, committed, romantic union.
But what about “conscious uncoupling?” Thomas explained that her goal was “to create a map for a couple to consciously complete a relationship — to have an honorable ending.”
Thomas said that the assumption that people will have only one lifetime partner — and that anything else is a failure — comes from a time long ago when the lifespan was much shorter.
This plan of action seems almost akin to a couple drafting a post-nuptial agreement in anticipation of divorce; a sort of “get all of our ducks in a row” plan on the road to divorce, with many issues resolved through mediation and friendly negotiation.
Do you agree that married couples can “consciously uncouple?”